The signs of a healthy, loving relationship are only too obvious: you can’t keep your hands off of every other, every joke sends you into a fit of laughter, and there’s nothing you would like to try to quite spend time with each other. However, when a relationship starts to travel south, the signs of its collapse are much more insidious.
“When warning signs first appear, we may attempt to rationalize them as normal—after all, no relationship is ideal. And it’s very hard to admit to something as important as one’s marriage showing signs of trouble,” says Dr. Inna Khazan, Ph.D. “And while it’s absolutely true that no relationship is ideal, it’s important to differentiate between imperfections we are willing to measure with and people we aren’t. Once problems we aren’t willing to measure with start to snowball, it’s going to become particularly difficult to deal with them.”
If you’re concerned that your relationship could be in trouble, read on to get these 18 signs you’re in an unhealthy marriage.
1. You don’t meet halfway in terms of finances
While few couples split every expense exactly down the center, differing expectations when it involves your financial future are a serious sign your marriage isn’t as healthy as you would possibly think. Though there’s little evidence to copy the often-cited claim that financial issues are the leading explanation for divorce, there’s ample evidence that means financial woes cause serious relationship issues. In fact, consistent with researchers at Kansas State University, financial disagreements early during a relationship are significantly correlated with overall relationship dissatisfaction.
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